One child or two child

When I was catching up with an old friend we discussed about the China's relaxation on one child policy.
It was so awful reading about stories of forced abortions and induced still borns. The sad stories of the unregistered second children not having official status or even possibility for education, career, marriage was overwhelming.
Forcing the whole population to have one child for a decade and then now saying "two child is ok" is pretty intrusive.
To look everything from an economic growth point of view is pretty obscene.
To have one child or two should be the couple's choice and right. It is one thing to create an awareness and educate the population in the constraints of natural resources and imbalance in nature (overpopulation leads to deforestation), but completely another to punish them for  non-adherence.
It is the family's choice to have one or two based on their personal and economic needs and constraints. It is a direct human rights violation to dictate and push it down their throats.
Since I also belong to an overpopulated country, I also felt having one child is better for the society. But the article spoke about two problems with the constrain of one child policy. One is that the median population age getting older and hence leading the population to have more older people than younger. Even in our culture the young take care of the old. So I can understand how it would affect the old.
The other being that the male population being higher than female and a ridiculous suggestion of one woman having multiple husbands.
I also feel there is a possible third problem. Children will lack siblings and hence the lifelong emotional support and also inturn their children would miss culture of playing with cousins. All the sweetness and soreness affiliated to siblings will become bed times stories rather than reality.
I am living in a country with 1.3 billion population and soon to surpass China as per the projections and I understand the issues related to overpopulation. But I still feel such forcible confinement leads to more problems than solution. As per the report on the projections, the infertility rate may also change the population growth.
I see that most Indians are now resorting to one or two children by choice. Empowering women through education and exposure to the economic realities has resulted in such choices.
Only the fanatically oriented due to religious reasons and the uneducated still continue to have many children. If these two issues are addressed, I think that is the solution. Forcing families to have one child, thereby depriving the child to have a sibling and manufacturing zombies as a population is cruel and inhuman. I think citizens should be treated as individuals with brains and not as assembling parts in a factory. If given the right awareness and exposure, majority will pick the right choice of having one or two based on their individual capability.
I am glad that is what my country has been working on since 1952
I remember seeing as a child, a lot of advertisements on family planning. "we two, ours two" kind. But now there seems to be not much work going on.
The uneducated need to be made aware of overpopulation issues and population control methods more effectively.
More women should be empowered with education and exposure.
Some God should tell these fanatics to stop insecurely populating in the name of religion.