Thoughts seldom spoken

One of my friend forwarded a message about the pressure on studies which had affected the son and father's relation. I understand that if the forward is true, Sujatha had written that in his biography inorder to state the issue of childhood trauma caused due to constant pressure to study and score marks. However that message also justifies the son's action, which I feel is the wrong approach. This spun to a discussion among my friends and one of my friend stated that "Childhood experiences matter the most in anyone's life. Nobody chooses to detach, it just happens. What impressions the innocent child got, stays in his mind fresh and it is very dangerously strong. That part of the brain operates beyond logic".   I agree on the part that emotions beat logic especially in childhood and it is nearly impossible to uproot the hatred that the oppression had created. It is true until the point you become a parent yourself. But the moment you become a parent there is a r...

In my 8 years of marriage, there had been numerous situations where I feel awkward to explain my view on last names. But something inside me boils when they call me Mrs. Vagmi. First of all, it amuses me because Vagmi is a unique name which could be used for a woman also. So if it is a friend, I would joke saying "sorry my husband is a man and you should be calling him Mr.." First of all it is very absurd to use one person's first name to use as someone else's last name.  At Tamil Nadu, (India), there is no concept of first name and last name at all. There is only one name which is the given name. So to blindly adhere to the British system, they took the first names of their husband and attached to the wife's. The first name or the only name of the father and attached it to the son or daughter. Now as per western tradition, you call people by their last name and Mr or Miss. Since this credit card callers are trained in that tradition, they will call and ask ...