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Why adopt the second child?

My friend called me and happily shared that she was conceived again. My immediate question was "Was it planned or unplanned?" The reason I asked is that we had discussed earlier in length about population control. She then explained that her son needs a companion at home and hence it is for his sake. "Then why not adopt?" Though I thought, I didnt ask. But she clarified that her parents will not treat both the children the same way and it would affect the adopted child. Had she brought in this topic I would have told my thoughts. But now that the deed is done, all I could say is "Take care". I could sense the disappointment "What an insensitive response? Not even a congrats??" But I just changed the topic. I felt very sorry and had an untold burden in my heart. Not because I didn't congratulate her. It was because I couldn't tell her what was in my mind. It would be cruel to make her feel uncomfortable at that moment. But then I thought ...